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Re: Independent study tips
Hi @PetiteQuark,
This is an interesting thread idea! I find that what helps me revise better is studying in a nice environment - this can be something like the library or in a quiet room with minimal distractions. I usually don't like studying at home since my room is quite messy and I get distracted quite easily hahah. Studying in the library might help you focus better since there's not a lot of visual clutter too!
Pomodoro timers might also be helpful for focus - our brains can only take in so much info, so it's good that pomodoro timers give you regular breaks. You can find various ones on YouTube!
I also like to use active recall methods for revision - for example this could be doing past papers or making your own questions to the class content and testing yourself with them when you need to revise a topic. Blurting (writing down everything you can possibly remember from a topic) is really helpful too as it can highlight which areas you're confident with and which areas you don't know as much - you may be surprised by how much you know about a topic!
I'm aware that active recall is kind of dependent on the subject you're studying though - this method of studying might be more effective for those who do science subjects (but it can still be helpful to an extent for non-science subjects!). What subject/s are you taking?
Best of luck with your studies and I hope this helps!
This is an interesting thread idea! I find that what helps me revise better is studying in a nice environment - this can be something like the library or in a quiet room with minimal distractions. I usually don't like studying at home since my room is quite messy and I get distracted quite easily hahah. Studying in the library might help you focus better since there's not a lot of visual clutter too!
Pomodoro timers might also be helpful for focus - our brains can only take in so much info, so it's good that pomodoro timers give you regular breaks. You can find various ones on YouTube!
I also like to use active recall methods for revision - for example this could be doing past papers or making your own questions to the class content and testing yourself with them when you need to revise a topic. Blurting (writing down everything you can possibly remember from a topic) is really helpful too as it can highlight which areas you're confident with and which areas you don't know as much - you may be surprised by how much you know about a topic!
I'm aware that active recall is kind of dependent on the subject you're studying though - this method of studying might be more effective for those who do science subjects (but it can still be helpful to an extent for non-science subjects!). What subject/s are you taking?
Best of luck with your studies and I hope this helps!
kaii
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Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
@JMMV2005 definitely go visit Oxford if you love architecture. Christ Church college is a beautiful one!
I tried to post a link to an Oxford tour for you, but because my account has just been remade, I can't post links yet. Google this and you'll find it: Oxford: C.S. Lewis & J.R.R. Tolkien Guided Walking Tour
I hope you enjoy all of Tolkiens writings- sounds like great stuff! I wish I could spend days reading his books too.
I tried to post a link to an Oxford tour for you, but because my account has just been remade, I can't post links yet. Google this and you'll find it: Oxford: C.S. Lewis & J.R.R. Tolkien Guided Walking Tour
I hope you enjoy all of Tolkiens writings- sounds like great stuff! I wish I could spend days reading his books too.
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
Hello @JMMV2005, it's great you're thinking about friendships and new ways to meet people. I'll second that: it's never too late to make new friends!
Thankfully, school isn't the only golden season for friendships. Don't worry, you haven't missed the boat! Why is it that school is a place where a lot of friendships are forged? = Time spent together (hour upon hour), shared experiences (lessons, school trips, lunch-times etc) and familiarity. Take these ingredients, mix them together, and friendships are created. Another one is shared interests. So how do we find that now school is over?
I think that finding friendship doesn't have to be hard- It does require effort but you can find it in a way that is enjoyable. As an introvert, I find it difficult to make friends in large, busy spaces but give me one friend in a quiet setting and I'm happy. It may sometimes require an element of stepping out of the comfort zone, but making friendships shouldn't be a process of torture- It's meant to be one of life's joys!
I'd suggest removing the pressure of "I have to try things to make friends" and instead think, "What would I enjoy putting my time and energy into?" Maybe that's a swim class, or a drawing group, or even creating your own group! My friend just set up a social media group for making new friends in her city to see where that could go. Believe me, there are plenty of young people looking for friends- we all need each other None of us are meant to be an island. When you put yourself in spaces you enjoy with people who will have shared interests and shared experiences, friendships will naturally follow.
Keep showing up, and you'll eventually find your keepers.
"Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold."
Good luck
Thankfully, school isn't the only golden season for friendships. Don't worry, you haven't missed the boat! Why is it that school is a place where a lot of friendships are forged? = Time spent together (hour upon hour), shared experiences (lessons, school trips, lunch-times etc) and familiarity. Take these ingredients, mix them together, and friendships are created. Another one is shared interests. So how do we find that now school is over?
I think that finding friendship doesn't have to be hard- It does require effort but you can find it in a way that is enjoyable. As an introvert, I find it difficult to make friends in large, busy spaces but give me one friend in a quiet setting and I'm happy. It may sometimes require an element of stepping out of the comfort zone, but making friendships shouldn't be a process of torture- It's meant to be one of life's joys!
I'd suggest removing the pressure of "I have to try things to make friends" and instead think, "What would I enjoy putting my time and energy into?" Maybe that's a swim class, or a drawing group, or even creating your own group! My friend just set up a social media group for making new friends in her city to see where that could go. Believe me, there are plenty of young people looking for friends- we all need each other
None of us are meant to be an island. When you put yourself in spaces you enjoy with people who will have shared interests and shared experiences, friendships will naturally follow.Keep showing up, and you'll eventually find your keepers.
"Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold."
Good luck
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
@JMMV2005, well done for taking that step! One thing I've learned along the way is that when in a group to try find common group. For example, when I was in lecture we were all there for one purpose: studying, but they put up a quiz of "who likes this?" to show us that amongst the crowd we have common ground for making friends: e.g. talking about our favourite TV show, what we're reading, or what we're working on.
Don't be discouraged by having "indoor-ish hobbies", those are actually excellent hobbies for friendships! When I studied English Literature, my teacher said "Reading books is great isn't it? It gives you something to talk about!"
Reading and drawing are actually two of my main hobbies. Here's how they've helped my friendships: reading- lending books to friends, borrowing their books, asking them for book recommendations (and reading them and telling them later whether I enjoyed it), shopping in Waterstones together (browsing/ window shopping or actually buying), asking them what they're reading at the moment.
Drawing: making artwork for friends (I draw for them/ paint), visiting art galleries together (works really well if you like taking day-trips e.g. a trip to Oxford to the Ashmolean Museum), going to art-history events at the local art gallery, and arty travel (e.g. looking at the Leeds Street Art Trail).
Your hobbies make for great conversation (and will make you interesting to others). They can open up doors for doing things together- making good memories. I think at the core of it, shared interests aside, people just want to be noticed, loved, and valued. The best way to start is with a warm smile.
Don't be discouraged by having "indoor-ish hobbies", those are actually excellent hobbies for friendships! When I studied English Literature, my teacher said "Reading books is great isn't it? It gives you something to talk about!"
Reading and drawing are actually two of my main hobbies. Here's how they've helped my friendships: reading- lending books to friends, borrowing their books, asking them for book recommendations (and reading them and telling them later whether I enjoyed it), shopping in Waterstones together (browsing/ window shopping or actually buying), asking them what they're reading at the moment.
Drawing: making artwork for friends (I draw for them/ paint), visiting art galleries together (works really well if you like taking day-trips e.g. a trip to Oxford to the Ashmolean Museum), going to art-history events at the local art gallery, and arty travel (e.g. looking at the Leeds Street Art Trail).
Your hobbies make for great conversation (and will make you interesting to others). They can open up doors for doing things together- making good memories. I think at the core of it, shared interests aside, people just want to be noticed, loved, and valued. The best way to start is with a warm smile.
Re: October achievements, with a theme of wellbeing at work!
@Amy22, I'm so proud of you for taking a lot more responsibility! I think it's really important to start being more independent as you grow up, but it's good to build up this responsibility in small steps so that you don't get stressed - it's completely valid to not have much responsibility yet it really sounds like you're open to learning more as you grow up! I l also feel like I haven't developed enough responsibility at my age, but I know I'll get there! Also, it doesn't sound silly at all that you started cleaning the house more - I wish that I had that privilege to get taught by my mum hahah.
And I agree, I think listening to music and doing a hobby can really relax you - and I'm glad that you've allowed yourself to rest as soon as you get home from work as well since it's really important! I'm happy to hear that you have a supportive network to talk to whenever you have worries as well - it really makes sure that you don't feel alone
it really sounds like you're open to learning more as you grow up! I l also feel like I haven't developed enough responsibility at my age, but I know I'll get there! Also, it doesn't sound silly at all that you started cleaning the house more - I wish that I had that privilege to get taught by my mum hahah.And I agree, I think listening to music and doing a hobby can really relax you - and I'm glad that you've allowed yourself to rest as soon as you get home from work as well since it's really important! I'm happy to hear that you have a supportive network to talk to whenever you have worries as well - it really makes sure that you don't feel alone
kaii
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Re: [deleted]
I'm really sorry to hear how much pain you're in right now @bignosegirly0, and thank you for being so open about it. It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of hurt and anger, and with the added pain and stress of work bullying, it’s completely understandable why it feels overwhelming. Ruminating on these feelings can be exhausting, especially when it seems like there’s no release or way to fully express everything you’re going through. It’s brave of you to take the step to share this here rather than bottling it up alone.
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
Gemma
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Re: im trying to keep going 😕
I'm so sorry you're feeling like this @eylah. It sounds like things have been weighing on you so heavily, especially with all the loss and loneliness you’ve been going through. It’s clear you're really giving your best each day, even though it feels like a struggle to just keep moving forward. That takes a lot of courage, even if it doesn’t feel like enough right now.
Losing your mum must be incredibly painful, and it's totally understandable that you'd feel alone and that every day is so hard to face. Grieving, especially someone so close, can take so much out of us, and it often feels endless - I can resonate with that feeling for sure. Have you had anyone to talk to about your mum and what she meant to you? Sometimes just being able to share those memories can help you feel a bit more connected to her, even if it’s hard at first.
I can see how difficult it is to hold onto hope when even things you once enjoyed, like drawing, feel draining. Is there anything small that sometimes helps, even a little? Maybe something that doesn’t need much energy but brings even a tiny bit of relief?
You're not letting yourself down and you're not a failure. Getting through each day when it’s this hard is already a huge achievement. It’s okay to feel lost at 18 - so many people do, even if they don’t show it. You’re not alone in that, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It sounds like things have been weighing on you so heavily, especially with all the loss and loneliness you’ve been going through. It’s clear you're really giving your best each day, even though it feels like a struggle to just keep moving forward. That takes a lot of courage, even if it doesn’t feel like enough right now.Losing your mum must be incredibly painful, and it's totally understandable that you'd feel alone and that every day is so hard to face. Grieving, especially someone so close, can take so much out of us, and it often feels endless - I can resonate with that feeling for sure. Have you had anyone to talk to about your mum and what she meant to you? Sometimes just being able to share those memories can help you feel a bit more connected to her, even if it’s hard at first.
I can see how difficult it is to hold onto hope when even things you once enjoyed, like drawing, feel draining. Is there anything small that sometimes helps, even a little? Maybe something that doesn’t need much energy but brings even a tiny bit of relief?
You're not letting yourself down and you're not a failure. Getting through each day when it’s this hard is already a huge achievement. It’s okay to feel lost at 18 - so many people do, even if they don’t show it. You’re not alone in that, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing.
Can you let us know if you're feeling like you can keep yourself safe today? How might you look after yourself today?woke up today thinking whats point i had enough of everything 😭.
Gemma
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Tags don’t work in spoilers
Hey, tagging people in a spoiler doesn’t seem to work, the spoiler counteracts the tags
River
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